Some of my biggest power moves have come from moments in pause.
Because I’m not afraid to allow and accept moments of rest, relaxation. I see the value in them and I see the good that can come from them.
Sometimes moments of pause come when you least expect or want it. Sometimes you're forced into a time-out by outside circumstances when you're bulldozing your way to success at a fast pace and you can't imagine having to slow down.
But when you embrace it, the most amazing things happen.
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Are you ready to make 2020 the best year ever?
Cue Elsa: “Let it go! Let it go!”
Are you holding back? Not going 100% with your goals? Not really trying to achieve more?
Is the fear of judgement, not being good, cool, instagram-able, etc. stopping you from achieving your dreams?
The idea of judgement can stop progress dead in its tracks. But who is that really hurting? I'll give you a hint: definitely not the person doing the judging!
Your fears are inhibiting you from real growth. These same fears are preventing you from achieving your dreams, and these same fears are stopping you from being completely present for your work and your family.
I am a strong believer in a happy mom equaling a healthy, better mom. That having aspirations for ourselves will only benefit our children. That simply being our authentic self will show our children that they too can achieve anything they want.
Are you sick or letting fear stop you?
As moms, and especially as ambitious moms striving for something bigger, we are forever searching for ways to incorporate more of the elusive self-care into our lives. We always talk about the importance of it or encourage other moms to do more of it but are quick to follow that up with how close to impossible it is in our own lives.
It CAN be hard to find ways to incorporate self-care into our lives. We ARE busy moms, stretched thin but if we see it as a possibility for OTHER moms to be doing then why would we expect less for our own lives? What makes us different than the other busy mom who we just encouraged to take a moment?
Self-care looks different for different women and what fills my cup isn’t necessarily going to fill yours in the same way. We also have different schedules, different family dynamics, and different support systems so there won’t ever be a one size fits all model of self-care. There are, however, some common pieces of the puzzle that we can ALL...
Hi! I’m Sheena, and I didn’t love being pregnant.
Truthfully, I didn’t get the butterflies, the ‘this is the most amazing thing that’s ever happened to my body’ feels.
I straight up was not having a good time.
I was swollen and I gained a ton of weight. I even went up three shoe sizes the last two months! There’s a thing they don’t tell you about, huh?
I was scared. Holy sh*t I was going to be a mom - Sebastian was a surprise, I wasn’t prepared for this.
I was lost on a personal level. I was so career-focused before getting pregnant. 12 hour workdays? No problem. Pregnancy had me shook - how was I going to succeed when I couldn’t hustle as hard?
And the craziest feeling was the overwhelming fear of being a mother:
- What if I couldn’t do it? Clearly I can.
- What if he never slept and cried all the time? He didn’t sleep but ended up being pretty chill.
- What if I screw him up? This one is still pending...
Mom guilt is a mother f*cker.
There, I said it.
While I have felt that, thought that and believe it still, I don’t say it enough. What I’m starting to see is a whole lot of women shouting that we need to stop FEELING mom guilt but not talking about the normalcy of it or how to go about getting rid of it.
Mom guilt can be the difference between the success and failure of your business.
Mom guilt can stop you from achieving your dreams.
Mom guilt can cause resentment towards your partner, other moms, friends, family, etc.
But here’s the thing about mom guilt…it’s almost always self-imposed! Even more? It doesn’t protect anyone and it actually creates more stress and less productivity. That’s the complete opposite of what any of us want in our lives, right?
So, why do we as moms feel so guilty about being ambitious? Is it because we are made to believe that we don’t matter as much as our families? Is it because we are not allowed to be...
Failure. Failing. Failed. Fail.
Too many people are so damn afraid to fail so they just don’t try, they just don’t take the chance, and they just don’t make the first move. They just don’t.
We’ve created a society that feeds that fear. We laugh at the expense of those who didn’t succeed in the ways we expected them to. We see it all of the time when the media highlights the Epic Fails of everyone we hold in the spotlight and we offer them little to no grace in those instances.
With 2019 coming to a close, it’s easy to look at the year and think of the things we didn’t accomplish or the things that we “need to do better” next year and a lot of times you can find that there was some sort of fear attached to your negative highlight reel. You didn’t lose the ten pounds you wanted to because you were scared to try out a new exercise class in case you weren’t as fit as the others. You didn’t get a raise...
Don’t take life so seriously, you’ll never get out alive.
Nico requested a re-take as he NEVER smiles in the first 3 photos— but jokes on him, I embrace it & share it with a few hundred of my closest internet friends!
One of the best things we can do as busy, stressed, parents is to not forget we are also partners. That person we are parenting alongside? We have to remember to leave enough left of ourselves to be able to give to them and in return, we need them to offer us the same.
It is so easy to let life get in the way. Just last night, after a difficult bedtime with a certain tiny person, I came out and said “THIS! This is why I’m so touched out and tired at the end of the day.”
It is so easy to let life get in the way, to let the hard moments steal the joy. To let all of our energy be pulled out of us over the course of the day. To stop focusing on the bond you have. To let your partner or yourself take a backseat.
I get it. We...
It’s a quiet pantry with the door shut, stuffing marshmallows into your mouth and chugging down a juice box you found on the top shelf. It’s a locked bathroom door when you don’t even need to use it but you can turn the fans on and drown out everything. It’s the bedroom door shutting behind you after you lay your little one down for a nap and you lean against it, taking deep breaths with your eyes shut.
As moms we will take a break whenever we can get one... and wherever too. We aren’t picky anymore. We’ll take them as they come and how they come because we don’t always know when the next one will happen.
I know I’m not the only one who sneaks into the bathroom for extended periods of time.
I’m looking at you, mama, who was just there for 15 minutes yesterday. No shame, sister. We’ve all been there!
We need a break.
A break from our partners.
A break from our children.
A break from our lives.
There’s an unknown quote that I came across recently that says,
It doesn’t seem like that should be a Big Lightbulb Moment that takes years to figure out or master. It seems obvious that you would want friends who believe in you, defend you and think that you deserve the world but do you want ONLY that ALL of the time? Nix the relationships that only believe in you part of the time, only defend you sometimes and think you deserve most but maybe not all of the world?
What I have found is that this need for fierce lady friendships becomes even stronger when you become a mom. I have drastically reduced my “friends” list over the last few years and only want people in my life that want to be here.
This is the story about a girl named Lucky
Not really, but it is about a girl named Sheena who has done some pretty brave things in her life. Some of which have transformed my life in a crazy way, some of which have transformed me as a person, and all of which lead me to exactly where I am today.
So, why talk about being brave?
I recently attended the Pays To Be Brave conference hosted by Angie Lee. This was a weekend-long, women empowerment conference which brought 1,500 women together. For me, this conference was one of a few that I have recently been to since starting the journey of entrepreneurship. I have found women-centered, entrepreneur conferences are jam-packed with information that speaks directly to each of the audience members, brings to light insecurities we all feel and help workshop through the toughest parts of being ambitious, and a woman.
What this particular conference does a little differently than others I have been to is bring realness....