Some of my biggest power moves have come from moments in pause.
Because I’m not afraid to allow and accept moments of rest, relaxation. I see the value in them and I see the good that can come from them.
Sometimes moments of pause come when you least expect or want it. Sometimes you're forced into a time-out by outside circumstances when you're bulldozing your way to success at a fast pace and you can't imagine having to slow down.
But when you embrace it, the most amazing things happen.
Yes, it’s true... And I want to help you get there too! Head over to find out about our Ambitious Mom Society Mastermind coming SOON!
Are you ready to make 2020 the best year ever?
Cue Elsa: “Let it go! Let it go!”
Are you holding back? Not going 100% with your goals? Not really trying to achieve more?
Is the fear of judgement, not being good, cool, instagram-able, etc. stopping you from achieving your dreams?
The idea of judgement can stop progress dead in its tracks. But who is that really hurting? I'll give you a hint: definitely not the person doing the judging!
Your fears are inhibiting you from real growth. These same fears are preventing you from achieving your dreams, and these same fears are stopping you from being completely present for your work and your family.
I am a strong believer in a happy mom equaling a healthy, better mom. That having aspirations for ourselves will only benefit our children. That simply being our authentic self will show our children that they too can achieve anything they want.
Are you sick or letting fear stop you?
As moms, and especially as ambitious moms striving for something bigger, we are forever searching for ways to incorporate more of the elusive self-care into our lives. We always talk about the importance of it or encourage other moms to do more of it but are quick to follow that up with how close to impossible it is in our own lives.
It CAN be hard to find ways to incorporate self-care into our lives. We ARE busy moms, stretched thin but if we see it as a possibility for OTHER moms to be doing then why would we expect less for our own lives? What makes us different than the other busy mom who we just encouraged to take a moment?
Self-care looks different for different women and what fills my cup isn’t necessarily going to fill yours in the same way. We also have different schedules, different family dynamics, and different support systems so there won’t ever be a one size fits all model of self-care. There are, however, some common pieces of the puzzle that we can ALL...
Failure. Failing. Failed. Fail.
Too many people are so damn afraid to fail so they just don’t try, they just don’t take the chance, and they just don’t make the first move. They just don’t.
We’ve created a society that feeds that fear. We laugh at the expense of those who didn’t succeed in the ways we expected them to. We see it all of the time when the media highlights the Epic Fails of everyone we hold in the spotlight and we offer them little to no grace in those instances.
With 2019 coming to a close, it’s easy to look at the year and think of the things we didn’t accomplish or the things that we “need to do better” next year and a lot of times you can find that there was some sort of fear attached to your negative highlight reel. You didn’t lose the ten pounds you wanted to because you were scared to try out a new exercise class in case you weren’t as fit as the others. You didn’t get a raise...
It’s a quiet pantry with the door shut, stuffing marshmallows into your mouth and chugging down a juice box you found on the top shelf. It’s a locked bathroom door when you don’t even need to use it but you can turn the fans on and drown out everything. It’s the bedroom door shutting behind you after you lay your little one down for a nap and you lean against it, taking deep breaths with your eyes shut.
As moms we will take a break whenever we can get one... and wherever too. We aren’t picky anymore. We’ll take them as they come and how they come because we don’t always know when the next one will happen.
I know I’m not the only one who sneaks into the bathroom for extended periods of time.
I’m looking at you, mama, who was just there for 15 minutes yesterday. No shame, sister. We’ve all been there!
We need a break.
A break from our partners.
A break from our children.
A break from our lives.